Clear Choices

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Hi my name is Brian. This will be my first post on my new blog. I decided to write about something that I seem to be doing a lot lately for people. Which is helping them to articulate their feelings and thoughts during times of stress ,difficult times, arguments and just general overall lost feelings. It seems throughout my life I’ve had people come to me and told me that they have the easiest time talking to me because I have a skill of listening. And I truly do listen to people when they speak with me. I genuinely care for people. I want to help them. I’ve spent many many years learning how to get in touch with my feelings and learning to be insightful. In so many cases accuracy is the key. It slows the mind and it eases the transition that the person is seeking. In so many cases that’s not an easy thing to do. But I’ve acquired the scale and in my following blogs I would love to share it with people because I see the relief that they have when they get it.I see the conference build, I see them smile in relief. And they look genuinely thankful. As am I. I guess the first topic that I would probably want to talk about is how do I articulate choices especially clear choices. How is that done how are you able to make clear choices when things are so foggy and unclear when it’s hard to even make the choice to make a choice. I found the number one thing was to put my emotions aside just for a little bit. I can always go back to them later once I’ve learned what I need to learn. One of those second things that I do is I go into the conversation as if I know nothing. I’m not saying that I am going to absorb or agree with everything and the person says that I’m speaking with but I was amazed at just how many things you actually do absorb when you’re in times of distress and you really didn’t think you did. I have a saying that I like which is always do the next right thing. Especially when times are tough when your white knuckling it keep your head down just keep doing the next right thing and that’s included in your thoughts that’s included in your choices. I’ve made a lot of bad choices in my life that’s what brought me to hear because I got sick and tired of it. So I learned, I researched spoke with many people as well ,successful people, psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, professionals of all kinds, blue-collar peoples like myself and of course my peers. I attended seminars workshops classes mediation assertiveness. Through those I learned there are certain skills that one needs to pick up to be able to speak clearly about, what they’re feeling , what they want and what they need. To be able to achieve their detour goals. The importance of clear articulation of wants ,needs ,desires opinions takes time , takes practice. It can be scary at times. Trust becomes an issue. Trust in yourself and others. But when you get them right the success that you have brings you an inner peace that is priceless.

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